Extinction of Romance

Is the concept of romance dead and buried? With the institution of friends with benefits is romance on the brink of extinction? What happened to going out on a date anymore? Nowadays we go over each other's house and maybe dinner gets cooked. Sex is obviously on the menu. We are turning into a society full of speed and excess. People barely know one another's last name and clothes are coming off. We have to stop moving so fast. Allow romance to take place. Try attraction, friendship, and intimacy. In that exact order. Go on a date and for once don't have sex. Let yourself be courted properly know that you are worth more than a roll in the hay. Make them prove themself worthy of your mind, body, and soul. Remember when people rounded the bases. First base was kissing, second was petting, we have moving so fast which slide past these two and go straight to third. Calm down your hormones go sit on the bench and regroup. Chivalry is alive and well. Since we are always bringing back old trends blow the dust off old fashion courting. It has always been in season it just seems we have always been rebellious and think we have outgrown it. We have gotten to big for our britches. Ladies leave him lingering for more with that unforgettable first kiss. Have more conversations. Learn about his goals and ambitions and don't be afraid to share some of yours. What happened to dinner and a movie? Ending the night with a kiss instead of a nightcap. Know you are worth waiting for. It is as if we have a backwards way of thinking sex is the priority and we anticipate everything else will come. Sex is the easy part it seems getting to know each is the part that takes work. Work is what we are afraid of. Getting our hands dirty. Think with your brain not your body. Ignore you libido for once and try a little logic. You always want to maintain a level of respect for yourself and others. Live for love not regrets.

Mixed Signals

If a woman says to a man I won't have sex with you unless we are in a relationship and the two of them end up having sex is it safe to assume they are in a relationship? The answer to this question is no. The two minds must always be agreed in order to prevent a bowl of confusion. See it may be assumed that since the man agreed to sex that he understood he is now in a relationship. It all boils down the fact we must always be clear about what we want. In addition you must also listen to what a person tells you. Don't just hear what you want them to say it is a big difference. Sometimes we get caught up in the fantasy we wind up missing the truth. We develop these illusions of grandeur. But I want to talk to my ladies right now please stop assuming that when a man sleeps with you that you all have magically developed in a relationship. Let's be frank for one a man does not have to like you to sleep with you. Learn to become a non-verbal reader. Men are logical creatures if they want to be with you they will simply let you know. We get caught up in the situation where we have this idea in our heads where we think things are headed. We get stuck in emotional mind, throwing logic and rationale out the window. Ladies I know you want to blame the man in this situation but you cannot do that without blaming yourself first. You told him I won't sleep with you unless your are my man. He never agreed to such terms. The sex did not seal the deal. Be leary of such threatening language it will scare the hell out of him and you will be in a short-lived relationship. He will be there until he has smacked, flipped and rubbed it down into boredom.

Hunting Grounds Pt. 2

Freaky Friday: Is an experienced lover a turn on/off? If experience is the best teacher, can you be a studious pupil? You are coming home from a long day of work when you run into a familiar face. It is raining outside and this intensifies your mood. When asked how you are spending your soggy evening you reply with a long sigh. Your mind drifts off to his ravishing body and how you would love to explore it playfully with your eager tongue. He must have read your mind because he says I know what you want. You meet up and he kisses you ever so passionately like he has been wanting to taste your lips for a while. When your bodies intertwine it is as if you all have danced this dance before. His hands travel all over your body knownigly gently awakening all your senses. You can tell he is an experienced craftsman. An experienced lover can teach you so many new things. Take you places sexually you have yet to reach with a fumbling first timer. They say it is better to give than receive. Give me the knowledge I need to saitiate your malnourished libido. Ladies you ever been with a guy tried something off the hook and the first thing pops out his mouth is where did you learn that? Sit back and take notes my dear. I got this, let mama do her thing. Yet of course as always there is the minority that is turned off by such confidence and even a little bit of conceit. Cause you know what your doing it is often assumed that you experiment with everyone. An experienced man is perceived as the Alpha Male and the question never arises about his number of conquests. It leads me to believe some are still fixated on the belief women should be submissive and never assert themselves especially not in the bedroom. Can you handle an experienced lover?

Hunting Grounds

Do you find a woman who is open sexually to be intimidating? Do you confuse her openness with promiscuity? You are doing security in a club and a sexy lady approaches and informs you she needs security for a party of one. She then hands you a slip of paper with her address on it and tells you to meet her there later. You arrive to find her in her pumps and a negligee needless to say it is definitely on and popping that night. Later on you see her again and you are cold and distant it seems you believe she threw herself at you. Time and time again I hear ladies say they want to be bolder and firmer about getting their needs met. Yet they are also fearful of being labeled as whores for doing so. It is so interesting to me that men can be open with their sexuality yet women are shunned for exhibiting the same behavior. Funny men say they never marry the freaks but they will mostly certainly cheat with them. With all these Zane novels and sex chronicles featured on Showtime women cannot help but to educate and explore their true sexual desires. We are tired of having mundane and submissive sex lives. We want some excitement too. Closed mouths don't get fed. So open wide....shit. I had an ex-boyfriend two of them actually who made me feel ashamed for being a bonafide freak. Often I wonder are my freakish tendencies part of the reason why I am still sexy and single as hell, LOL. Ladies please unleash the inner sex goddess that is buried within you. If your man cannot handle you find someone who can. Fellas calm down I am not promoting any ho-tendencies here I just want you to open up your minds as well as your bodies. Missionary is not in my vocabulary...feel me.

Rules of Engagement

Have you ever been involved in a booty call arrangement? An arrangement which is sexual in nature and the terms of the agreement are that there are no emotional attachments. It is purely sexual. You are at the grocery store and you run into an old friend from high school. You all get to talking and catching up. He suggests you all exchange numbers and get together some other time. Later on that night he invites you over to his place. You all began kissing and he is caressing you and clothes seem to disappear. One thing leads to another and you are thinking he just invented sex. You all make a verbal agreement that whenever the mood strikes either of you, you all will hook up. You all see one another again and act as if nothing happened. As long as you two keep things this way the arrangement works out perfectly. I had an arrangement like this years ago it was perfect until he started going through my phone calling an male number in there and asking how they knew me. On one rare occasion I decided I did not want to be intimate with him and he threatened to burn my house down. Needless to say our contract was null and void after that incident. Every since then I have been hesitant about getting involved in such an arrangement. Now that I am older I realize that such an arrangement can be a Catch 22. You might get into this situation believing you are just in it for the sex and find yourself falling for your partner which means you both mutually agree to change the terms of the contract or ended things right then and there. They say when two people have sex at least one of them walk away with feelings. Hopefully if you are in this type of arrangement you are not the one who is left holding the bag.

Love's Haunting

Have you ever dated someone because they reminded you of someone you used to date? Ever had a case of the ex? You meet someone new and everything about them reminds you of the one you once gave your heart to. They remind you of them in a good way. Their swag, the style of dress, aura, everything. Sometimes you get so caught up in the ghost of love past you do not clearly see the person in front of you. You become in love with an enigma. I have fallen for such a daunting spirit. I met a guy who I was totally smitten with and he reminded me of a former love. One who broke my heart. I felt like I could tell this new guy everything we definitely were friends first which is how I like to do it. He was everything I wanted my ex to be and more. I tried to love this new man but I was still in love with my ex. I guess I did not give myself enough time to heal from my wounds. I longed for my ex so much that I could not see the beauty in the man I was with. He truly made me feel beautiful and wanted so unlike my ex. I guess I say all that to say is that when you break up with someone truly give your self time to grow from the pain that heartbreak brings.

Staying Power

Manly Monday: Hello gentleman it is Manly Monday where the focal point is dating issues that affect you. What turns a woman from a potential mate to a potential sex partner? What egregious act has she committed that took her out of the running for your next girlfriend? They say when you first meet someone you are actually meeting their representative. Yet something occurs in this first encounter that separates the playthings from the keepers. I am aware that the criteria and credentials vary among men. The general consensus is that most women would like to be Ms. Right vs Ms Right Now. So fellas please educate us because inquiring minds would like to know. I cannot tell you how awkward it is when I think I have a deep connection with a guy and he completely flips the script on me and says he is just looking for a "friend" right now. Later on down the line he is with someone else. That is a bowl of confusion. I often wonder if there was something I could have said or done differently. Through this blog I hope to educate but I am also open to learning from you as well.

Sensual Seduction

Freaky Friday: Ladies and gentleman it is Freaky Friday and the question of the day is: What is the sexiest body part on the opposite sex? What part of their body just sends shock waves through your body and leaves you trembling like an aftershock? I know you all are wondering how I would answer such a question. No it is not his sexy lips, nice teeth, not even his enticing smile, no it is his big, beautiful…..BRAIN. GOTCHA! There is nothing and I mean nothing that sends a sensual eruption through me like intellect. It definitely ha s a profound affect on me. I love listening to a man discuss life and his take on it. Especially if it is about his goals and how high he will reach to attain them. The mere thought of this man excites me and makes my lips quiver. I love a man that can challenge my mental. Send mentalgasms throughout my mind. My appetite for his knowledge is insatiable.

Chef's Choice

You and your boy like the same girl, how do you decide who dates her? He likes her for external reasons you idolize her for internal reasons. You and her have grown closer than him and her. You get to see a side of her that he never even realized existed. She is supportive of you and your endeavors. You are appreciative of that. A woman should never come between true friends. Although you are aware of this fact it plagues you everyday, the reality is to him she is just a big butt and a smile. For you it is much deeper than that. You admire this woman and can see this friendship growing into so much more. You and her share common goals and interests. In the past you have always backed down but not this time. In my opinion, you should let your boy and her know how you feel. If you all have a deep connection then more will prosper from the friendship. Whatever you do let this decision of who dates her be hers and hers alone no pressure. It could be that she does not see things the same way you do and may just want to maintain a friendship with you. Often times people say friends make the best lovers. They say good things come to those who wait. Patience is a virtue that many of us are not equipped with. We want, what we want, when we want it, and do not have time to wait. It has been my experience that timing is everything. Sometimes it is just not your turn. Often you reflect back to times when you liked someone and they did not like you back and then years later they realize what a catch you were. Only to realize that their time had passed. In the back of your mind you think why didn’t they approach me sooner? Or, you have a catch in front of you and you dropped the bait and someone else caught your fish. Reality can be a real pain in the ass. One that does not heal easy the more you think about what could have been the more it feels as though salt is being poured into the wound.

Sleeping With The Enemy

Battle of the Sexes: Would you sleep with someone your friend slept with? There is this guy that you have been eyeing for a while that you spot while out one night with the girls. Your cutie approaches and he is interested in your girl. Devastated you roll with the flow and later endure her story about their recent liaison. A few months later you spot your cutie at an eatery and he invites you to have lunch with him versus the two of you eating alone. Much to your surprise he informs you that he has also been eyeing you for quite some time. He reveals that he has always been interested in sleeping with you. After you pick your lip off the table you have to decide right now how to handle the situation. You have never done anything like this so why should you start now. You most certainly do not want her sloppy seconds. In addition, you are not flattered that he wants to sleep with you. No woman should ever be flattered that a man wants to sleep with her. Most importantly, he went out with your friend instead of you which just adds insult to your injured ego. He wants to test the waters. He wants to sample and compare. Let him compare someone else have some self respect. The male population is not so scarce that you have to recycle a man.

Sacred Vows

Do you still believe in the institution of marriage? With these days of friends with benefits do couples still exist and if they do, do they still get married? It seems as if the sacred union between two loving people has been saturated in these times. People seem to be more in love with the wedding more than what the wedding represents. Especially now with the implementation of shows such as Bridezilla, who would want to marry such monsters. It seems as though we forget the work that marriage entails. Many of my friends laugh when I say I want to be friends first and then work out way up from there. I am a firm believer that a good friendship is the foundation needed to help build a lasting home. I want my man to be my best friend before he can be my husband. As far as marriage I am hesitant to jump the broom. With the ridiculous divorce rates and the scandalous cheating I wonder where is the love? Marriage cannot sustain even a year without love. The loss of love is a recipe for disaster. We get wrapped up in superficial things such as looks, money, status, etc. the list goes on. We forget it is what is on the inside that counts. Looks fade, people become broke, and lose status. When these things dissipate can the marriage survive such shallow waters without drowning?

Single in the City

Why are you single? Am I the only one that hates being asked this question? I am single for various reasons mostly by choice but some of it has to do with the current dating scene. The men that I have encountered want the benefits of a relationship without the title. After experiencing the current dating scene I have decided to remain strong in my singlehood until I get what I want. Settling is not an option. Reality truly puts things in perspective in order to attain the best I must be at my best. The focus is back on me now I am embarking on a journey to getting to know and love me. Sometimes in order to get to where you need to be in life you first must reconnect with who you are.

Raising the Bar

How do you know when someone is on your level or not? What is with all the illusions of grandeur? How can someone be beneath you? Fellas, you meet a beautiful sister that has her shit together has all the right credentials you all have hit it off and you are about to ask her out when she informs you that you are not on her level. Ladies you meet a nice looking man and you are talking and have a very interesting conversation that piques your interest makes you thirsty for more of his intellect. Yet before you can exchange numbers your girl informs you that he is not on your level. What part of the game is that? I really would like to know what is going on that many of us are riding high when we cannot maneuver the horse properly. Some of you are throwing stones at glass houses. To put it in layman's terms you could be missing an opportunity to meet your soulmate. Soulmates are a rarity. So please come off the pedestal long enough to see the potential someone has. You cannot get everything upfront you have to dig a little to find the diamond in the rough.

Closing the Deal

When does a friend with benefits arrangement expire? You and your girl are sitting on the bus stop when a sexy guy pulls up and wants to talk to you. You all exchange numbers and later you go on a date. The chemistry between the two of you is a sensual eruption. You two have sex and later it develops into a friend with benefit situation. This "friendship" last for years and then during this unorthodox courtship you meet another man and now you are in a commited relationship. Yet you never officially ended the situation with the "friend". Is there an expiration date on a friend with benefit situation?

Matter of Convienence

Is your mate content with the sex you have or is it simply a matter of convienence? You are enjoying your day and thinking about your man when guess what he calls. What a coincidence! He wants to meet up later and you kindly oblige. You all get into but you get to thinking your always avaliable to him but when you reach out for him you can never seem to get him to answer. Basically, when you need it he is nowhere to be found. Questions began to seep into your your wise mind. Rational thinking now comes into play. Is he calling you because the sex is good or is it because it is convienent? You are in the right place at the right time.

Maneater

Have you or would you ever date another woman's man? Ignorance is bliss. But when you know better you do better. Dating is very hard nowadays and it seems like the male population is becoming an endangered species. The male-female ratio is phenomenal. Women are the majority. Men have a vast selection of women to chose from. With that being said finding a man is becoming increasingly difficult. I am not even going to count those we lose to interracial dating and other men. Those are topics for another day. So let me paint a picture for you. You meet this guy and you two have instant chemistry. You talk at length everytime you see one another. You exchange numbers so you can talk even more. Text and talking seems to go on endlessly and this guy definitely piques your interest. One day you all have that dreadful conversation where is this going this is when he informs you that you all can only be "friends" due to the fact he is already involved. Devasted and horribly tripping on your ego you pick yourself up. Now you have two options you can continue the "friendship" or sever all ties with him. That's a hell of a Catch-22. It is hard sometimes the lady in you wants to do what's right and put yourself in her shoes and think about how you would feel if the tables were turned. Another part of you is like what his girl don't know won't hurt her. Is it worth it?

Caramel Delight

Caramel Delight

Sexy ass
Caramel butterdrop
Looking at your lips make mine wet
I began licking my tongue over my lips as I would yours
You want me and I know it
Yet your are drowing in denial river
What are you so afraid of
I won't bite unless you ask me to
Then I will have to kindly oblige
Bold and beautiful
Yes I am
I want you and I have to have you
It is more than a sexual conquest
Take you everywhere and back again
Have you floating in pure ectasy
Make you quiver with the mere words that leave my lips
Challenging you to push through your fear and come and take a walk with me
For this journey leads to a path where you want to be
Somedays I am around you and I am on the point of combustion
This morning when you walked over to me I just wanted to kiss you and allow you to taste my warm caramel kiss
Our chemistry is burning like a brush fire that cannot be extinguished
Yet I have to pull back you cannot be with me for you have someone
I respect that number two is not a place I wish to rest my head
Gracefully I must bow out
Tired of being such a fucking lady.

Act Like A Lady

Would you confront another woman? Ladies you are kicking it with a sexy guy and another woman approaches you asking can she speak to you. Funny thing is you all don't ever speak. You have never even exchanged pleasantries. So what is so pertinent now? She is inquiring about the nature of your relationship with another man. Now your first thought is why the sudden interest. Ladies time and time again mother has told you that a man will only do what you allow him to do. If he treats you like a pauper it is because you do not demand to be treated like the queen you are. Do not approach another woman about a man. If he is your man then you need to approach him. Any questions you have should be directed at him and him only. Truth be told you do not know the true nature of their relationship and even further still you do not know what he is telling her. She may not even be aware that he is your man. Think about this when you approach another woman be prepared for what she might say. You are bound to walk away with some hurt feelings and a taste of some damn truth. Remember there are three sides to a story his, hers, and the truth. Can you handle the truth?

Access Denied

Are you involved in a friend with benefit situation where one of the parties sees it as more than just sex? You are dealing with a guy and you all have the greatest sex. All is well until you realize that he is the possessive type. He does not like other men talking to you and will step to them as if he is your man when he is not. Or, guys the girl you have as a plaything gets shit confused and thinks she is your Ms. Right when she is really Ms. Psycho. She starts approaching other women in your life. In both of these situations the contracts need to be denied. Both applicants should immediately be hooked up with one another cause obviously they belong together. Now who is really benefiting from this friendship?

Batter Up!

When you are with your friends and you see someone of the opposite sex you like how do you decide who steps to them? It seems like the shark gets all the fish. If you sit back and observe you may observe one of your friends walking off with your potential mate. So you are in the club and you spot a cutie and so does your girl how do you decide which lovely lady gets his number? Personally, I let him choose who he wants to talk to. My thing is my light while shine no matter how matter other stars are around me. If he steps to me then she knows what’s up if not then it is his loss.

Does my sexiness upset you?

What does sexy mean to you? Sexy is synonymous with the physical attributes one possesses. Sexy has a certain ring to it makes you want to kick it up a notch. It is all about confidence. You have to have an air about you. Something that lingers when you leave the room. Confidence is often times confused with conceit. Confidence is the belief in oneself. Conceit is a defense mechanism used to deflect one's own insecurities. Confidence can be a scary thing how dare one think highly of themselves. When confidence has been taken away it is hard to gain it back. One tends to seek validation versus looking within. Determining their worth based on the opinion of others. Looking for love in all the wrong places. The journey to self worth is a long and lonely path. A walk one must take alone. To truly maintain your sexy you have to believe it. You have to look in the mirror and fall in love with the person staring back at you. Sexy is the energy you exude. Confidence seeps out of you. Confidence is an essential tool in the game of life. Dreams are deferred when confidence is not in place. You must first convince yourself before you can convince anyone else. Stop basing how you perceive yourself on how others see you. Don't let society dictate who you are.

Speedy Loving

Battle of the Sexes Question: Ladies when are you satisfied with a "quickie" as opposed to a full night of passionate sex? Why? You are on your lunch break and you guys shoot to your place for an afternoon delight. You hike up the skirt and get to work. Quickies are cool and some may even say they are necessary in situations where you are on a serious time constraint. Now I don't mind them every now and again. But let's not confuse the exception with the rule. Quickies are a tease something like an appetizer before the main course. Ladies I don't know about you all but I do not like being teased. The appetizer better be hella good if I have to wait for the main course.

Monkey in the Middle

Are you content being a sidepiece? Second place always has a whole lot to prove. Since when does second place become a top spot. Second in command seems to be the place to be. Sidepieces are anxiously waiting to be picked. You do not have the option of saying no. You must aim to please at all times. Number one doesn't have to do anything other than cook and clean the house. Number two you better be hanging from the ceiling. You are on-call at all times. You have to follow rules and you practically have no rights. Do not show up to the house unannounced, always know your place which is second, kissing on the lips is prohibited, always remember you have rules not rights. You are not the mate you are the sidepiece you chose to take on this role so deal with the consequences. You do things on their terms only. Let's not get it twisted there are people who are complacent with the second spot. They would rather not bother with commitments or the complex dynamics that a relationship entails. Some people prefer to date people who are otherwise involved. It the thrill of the chase you want what you can't have. There is something so alluring about that. You can be the freak he needs without worrying about how his day went. Just take off your clothes and assume the position. There is something so wrong with this picture. Complacency has never been a comfortable spot ever. Yet so many of us are sitting pretty on the sideline. Knowing we will never be picked first. When will you be done proving yourself worthy?

Guess who's coming to dinner?

Have you or would you ever participate in a threesome? If two's company and three is a crowd why would you invite a third person into your bed? One late night you and your boyfriend have a discussion about your fantasies. He presents you with some Pandora's box shit like he wants to invite another woman into your bed. Of course you get to choose who she is. Or maybe he does depending on how receptive you are to the idea. You both agree on a girl and you go along with the plan. When things take off turns out she is more into you than she is to him. How ironic is that! Jealousy begins to rear it's ugly head and the situation hardly seems worth it. He has bitten off more than he can chew. Now his ass is choking. Does a threesome enhance or hinder a relationship?

Revolving Doors

Have you ever been or considered an open relationship? An open relationship is one in which the participants are free to have emotional, spiritual and/or physical relationships with other partners. An example of this would be swinging, which permits sex outside the primary relationship, but not love. When two people have sex at least one of them develops feelings afterward. Therefore not permitting love in swinging sounds like an oxymoron. You are sharing your body with someone yet somehow you must separate the mind. You are dating someone who does not meet your sexual needs and your partner has exhausted all efforts and mutually you come to the conclusion that an open relationship will help sustain the relationship you all have. Somebody has done flipped and fell face first into horse manure. What part of the game is that? If I were presented with such a proposition I would immediately declare us both single. Null and void. Open relationships removes any expectation of loyalty. It has been argued that when no one is demanding that you be loyal, and when the relationship is completely free and voluntary, why would anyone want to stray? Is an open relationship the cure to infidelity?

Cookies n' Cream

Could Mr. Right be white? Ever thought about taking a pleasure filled trip into the land of white chocolate? Brothers experiment all the time. It is high time we have fun in the laboratory of love and taste the rainbow. Yet dark chocolate is so damn irresistible. Your appetite for it is insatiable. Dare to compare. Would you ever mix your cookie with some cream?

Celibate State Of Mind

How do you handle your mate's celibacy? You meet this sexy, intelligent, ambitious man who excites all your senses with the mere sound of his voice. His thoughts on life and passion for more give you a mental orgasm. You want to take it to the next level. This is when you reveal to him you want to be intimate with him. He lets you know he is celibate. After your harrowing trip down ego lane you realize that you need to take this with a grain of salt. Respect his position. Respect seems almost unattainbale these days. Can you handle a sexless relationship?

Check Please!

Freaky Friday: Ladies and gentleman it is Freaky Friday and the question of the day is if you are going on a double date who picks up the tab? Is it your date or your responsibility for the cost of entertainment and dining for that night? Technically neither of you ask one another out really it is a blind date. I was asked out on a double date tonight and I do not know the rules for a double date I have always followed the philosphy thatI take money with me just in case. If I ask I pay. In addition, I am prepared to go dutch. A popular practice of mine is to establish an arragement prior to the date as to remove any complications when the check arrives.

Truth Serum

Is honesty the best policy? A guy approaches you and strikes up a conversation. He asks you for your number. He calls you and gives you the rundown about how he is not interested in a relationship. He is looking for a friend. How presumptuous of him of him to assume you want to sleep with him. He might as well had walked up to you and asked you to sleep with him. It is not what you say but how you say it. Some women approached in this manner would be impressed and sleep with him anyway. Can you handle the truth?

The Big O

Ever had the kind of sex where you see the sun, the moon, the mountains, and rivers. Afterwards you are speechless staring off in space in pure amazement. You cannot believe he put it on you like that. Relax yourself. Let you conscious breath. Ladies some of you are guilty of drifting off into your minds during sex. Your mental health can often be a reflection of the kind of sex you have. If you are somewhere else mentally then physically you cannot feel the full effect of the sex. Ladies let me get deep for a minute. Whatever hang-ups that you have had in the past let them go. Free yourself. An orgasm can be very liberating. Do not fear this earth shattering sensation. It is meant to be. There is a sex god that exists to please you. Allow him to do that. Sit back and enjoy the moment. Stop over analyzing things. Don't question the master. Let him do his thing. The last thing you want to do is bring your issues to the bedroom. Leave that shit at the door. Handle your business. Allow your body to be totally uninhibited. Embrace his touch and kiss. Let his tongue playfully dance along your body. Ladies let's face facts it is almost a 100% guarantee a man will climax. It is a rarity that they don't. You deserve the big O. Orgasms even multiple ones are allowed. Take the focus off of him and put it back on you. Don't get so caught up in pleasing him that you forget to please yourself. If he is hitting your spot let him. Don't run solider up and take it like a pro. Ride it like a rodeo. It is yours for the taking. Let the damn cup runneth over.

Insatiable Appetite

How do you let your mate know that they are not satisfying you sexually? You are a bonafide freak and your man is not pleasing you right. You try to teach him but his ego gets in the way. You have brought toys to enhance things and he still does not get the picture. Tired of your B.O.B. you are at your wits end what's a girl to do?

Excess Baggage

Battle of the Sexes Question: Women when you date a new man do you let your past baggage interfere with your relationship? You know the saying goes you cannot blame every man for what one has done. In a relationship you have to take it one day at a time. Do not pre-judge the situation based on past indiscretions of someone else. Take it for what it is worth learn the lesson in love. If your previous man cheated be mindful of the clues that he will subconsciously leave for you. I dated a man after not dating for three years, when I saw this new man had a volatile temper I immediately ended the relationship. In my eyes that was a sign of an abusive relationship and I wanted no part of that again. If I cannot call you after a certain time at night or your phone is always on silent when I am around this is a sign of another woman. I learned these things from a previous relationship. I refuse to throw all my luggage at the next man. I will presume he is innocent until proven otherwise.